Make Your Life a Better Place to Live with the Rule of Fives!
Hey, have you ever heard of the rule of fives? Well, I’m going to explain the rule of fives and show you how you can use it to increase your success, increase your happiness, make your life a better place to live.
Hey, this is Dr. Noel Lloyd and I’m in my Chicago hotel suite, ready to do the Five Star Management foundation of success 2020 brand new decade, brand new year, first seminar of the year, second week of the new year. So, it’s pretty exciting stuff.
So, what is the rule of fives? Years and years ago, I was talking to a gentleman who’s a very, very smart guy. And he explained the rule of fives to me this way. You become like the five people that you spend the most time with and I thought, wow, and I ran that through my mind, and I thought it was true.
So, if you have successful friends, if you have successful acquaintances, people that you spend the most time with, who are headed in the right direction. Chances are you too are thinking successful thoughts, have successful attitudes and headed in the right direction. I was talking to a client one time. And he was talking about a guy that he knew from school, somebody who’d been a long-term friend of his, who he had coffee with every single Thursday and after every single Thursday coffee session, he was depressed and downcast. And I said, “So what happens in that meeting?” And he says, “My friend shares every fear “and every negativity and every problem he can think of, “and because I’m his friend, I’m not going to argue with him “or fight with him and I continue to meet with him” and I said, “You know what? “I don’t often suggest this, “but one of the things that you might do “is take a vacation from that coffee meeting.” I’m not talking about dropping the friend, but I’m talking about not being in that influence. And then he can recruit his friend to his positive attitude, which is what he chose to do and you know what? The friend said, “You know, I just don’t think “the way that you do and maybe “we shouldn’t have coffee anymore.”
So, here’s one of the things that happened. My client started to pick up friends at Five Star Management with that he started emailing with and he was on the phone with and when they’d come to the seminars, what would happen is that they’d get together and they’d go out to meals and sit together at the seminars, and his entire practice changed. So, about a year later, I did a little assessment and that was how his five most influencing, five most people that he spent the most time with, and it totally changed and so had his practice.
So, you become like the five people that you spend the most time with. Now, I think that you should select successful people who are headed in the same direction, who want to do wonderful things, who think great things about helping people and having fun and making more money, and that you spend your time with those people. There’s another application for the rule of fives. I was asking a wise, another wise person. I was telling him something that I wanted to do, and he says, “Can you think of five people “that are doing that?” And I thought, yeah, I can probably come up with four or five people, and he says, “Well then ask them what they do. “And then do what they do. “Here’s what you will find.” He told me, “The five people that are doing that “will do basically the same thing.” So, in your interview or in the time that you spend finding out what they do, you’re going to find common things that they do.
Now, I applied that to getting new patients. So, I wanted, this is before I was a practice management coach, I wanted to get lots of new patients. So, I found out five people that were doing marketing, that were doing marketing really, really well and producing a lot of new patients. And you know what, there were wonderful things that were in common. But my journey was to get on the phone. In some cases, I actually hopped in an airplane and went and visited them. And what happened is that people were very successful at doing things that I wanted to do, were also very willing to share what they were doing. And so, my new patients just went up, up, up, up because there were five people doing what I wanted to do. I found out what they were doing, and I did what they were doing it.
So that’s one of the reasons why I encourage my clients to make sure that they come to the Five Star Management Live Training, so we do. Seminars are no charge to them; they get a chance to bring their staff to get some great training. But one of the things I also do is facilitate in the group, people who were doing what I think is exemplary, and exceptional work, and we’ll share and then I’ll encourage other people, go talk to so and so. Why don’t you guys get some coffee, make sure that you take your team and maybe your two teams can go out, and I facilitate those relationships.
So, the rule of fives, part one, you become like the five people that you spend the most time with. Rule of fives, number two, if you want to do something that’s successful, something that’s wonderful, something that’s great. Find five people that are doing it, and then do what they do. That sounds kind of simple, but it’s a very, very good formula for action steps.
This is Dr. Noel Lloyd for Five Star Management and for Chiropractors, everywhere using the rule of fives to help more people have more fun and become more successful. I’ll talk to you later. Bye bye.